A proven roadmap for relationship recovery.

You long to rekindle the passion you felt when you met. Yet you feel trapped in conflict and power struggles. Other times, it feels like you’re drifting apart. Despite the best intentions, you may experience:

• More frequent fights; repeating the same argument

• Walking on eggshells around each other

• Feeling misunderstood, ignored, or unappreciated

• Harboring resentments

• Less trust and overall good-will

• Decreased physical and emotional intimacy

Couples’ work requires a format that guarantees emotional safety, and that is my specialty.

I’ll teach you key skills you’ll practice inside and outside of sessions, that will bring back your connection and help you build a more conscious relationship. Most couples I work with say that even though it feels a little clunky to learn a new way of relating, they do notice a profound shift the more they practice.

My approach delves deeper than conflict resolution. You’ll learn how to create a safe space to share your deepest vulnerabilities and reconnect on an emotional level, so that you can rediscover the joy of being together.

I value and celebrate diversity, and I work with clients from all racial and cultural backgrounds, LGBTQIA+, and all walks of life. As a person married to a naturalized U.S. citizen, raising our daughter in a bilingual home, I am particularly well-versed in the dance of bridging two cultures and languages in a committed partnership.

I will coach you in learning how to:

• Build a stronger foundation of safety and trust

• Replace defensiveness with empathy, curiosity and kindness

• Transform frustrations into requests that can actually be met

• Balance extremes: the partner who always talks when upset will learn how to listen more; the partner who prefers to retreat under stress will practice reaching out and claiming more space

I work best with couples who:

• Are willing to try stretching into new behaviors, knowing they’ll receive a lot of support, encouragement, and guidance each step of the way.

• Are open to bringing some of what they learn in-session into their daily life. Don’t worry, I’m talking about manageable changes—not time-consuming homework. My goal is to help you both “graduate” from therapy and create lasting change, so that in the future, when you need a tune-up, you’ll know exactly what to do.

What if your partner won’t come to counseling?

Open the conversation by saying, “I want to learn how to be a better partner to you,” and sincerely take ownership for your role in the issues. It ensures a more receptive outcome to open with vulnerability and accountability, rather than sending the message that it’s your partner who needs to change. I also recommend fully hearing out your partner’s concerns, and validating them (even if you disagree). There are many good reasons why people say “no” to couples’ counseling. Maybe your partner feels uncomfortable talking about private issues in front of a stranger. Or perhaps they fear the therapist will take sides and criticize them. I hold the view that both partners’ perspectives make sense. The unique format of Imago therapy—where the therapist facilitates a dialogue between partners during sessions—provides a structure that ensures therapy is a safe place for both partners to be vulnerable.

If you’re struggling with your partner’s unwillingness to come to couples’ counseling, I urge you to set up a 15-minute consultation, where we can discuss the specifics.